Each year, a different part of the Christmas story stands out to me. A part in the very beginning tugs on my heart this year, and reminds me of the legacy you’re already preparing for your adopted child.
When I decided to pursue adoption, I remember having to come to terms with the fact that there’d be some things I wouldn’t be handing down to my child. My husband’s dimples, for example, or my mother’s eyes. Before I could fully embrace our dream of adoption, I had to process that I wouldn’t be able to compare family photos and figure out who our baby most resembled.
But even though my son has a different genetic history, there are definitely things he’s inherited from me. There will be some things I pass down to my son that won’t show up in a photo, as neither would they in a photo of Jesus and His Mother Mary.
Mary asked some questions when the Angel, Gabriel told her that she’d conceive a child by the Holy Spirit, even as a virgin. Then, she accepted the plan by saying “…May everything you have said about me come true.” (Luke 1:38)
Having such a tender heart of faith and surrender isn’t biologically passed down to your child. It’s shown, taught, and lived.
Mary’s statement of trust in God’s plan reminds us that Jesus was faced with His moment of surrender. In Luke 22:42, He prepared for His journey to the cross in prayer: “…Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”
Since Jesus is the Son of God, He began with a greater acceptance and understanding of what it means to have trust in the Lord’s plan. I believe that Jesus likely watched His Mother’s surrendered, trusting faith and that He’d need to achieve God’s plan of redemption for us all.
This will be true for you and your child, too. You’ve already created a heritage of faith for your child’s future by answering the call to adopt. You’re trusting and accepting God’s plan for your family’s future. The faith you’re already showing in this part of your story will become a legacy for your child when they most need it.
There will be many special, important, and memorable things you’ll pass on to the child you adopt. I pray that you find peace in a surrendered heart to God’s plan this Christmas, and joy in the amazing miracles He’s already creating for your family.
Christmas blessings to all of you!
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on December 8, 2018, and has since been updated.