When people feel hurt they often look for a reason for their anger and despair. As our bodies react to the physiological feelings that anger and despair leave us, we wonder how and why this has happened to us.
Unresolved anger can be harmful to your health, causing serious physical and mental health problems such as heart disease, stroke, depression, and anxiety.
Anger comes from feeling that we’ve been wronged and sometimes disguises itself. Often instead of admitting that we are angry or feeling sad, we will admit to being frustrated or disappointed. Other hidden forms of anger are sarcasm, criticism, and freezing up.
Unresolved anger can lead us to become hardened and unwilling to see the good in life, affecting not only us but others in our lives. Our friends and family will see the despair in our actions and our attitudes. By using a few simple tools, we can resolve the anger and despair in our lives:
- Postpone aggressive reactions to the anger
- Acknowledge the feelings and don’t dismiss them
- Find the truth behind the anger
- Work to resolve the anger through understanding it
Dealing with anger and despair can be our best gift to ourselves. By acknowledging and dealing with anger we can prevent the side effects that will ripple through our life. When anger and despair have surrounded us, it is often hard to see an end to it all, but by dealing with it, we can release ourselves from our despair and proceed through life on a path of happiness
Continue to stay strong, seek help and take the time to step back and ask yourself questions about the feelings you are having. In doing this you will be able to deal with the anger when it arrives. You will learn to replace anger with emotions that will be less harmful in your life.