My book So I Was Thinking About Adoption…Consider Your Choices is a compassionate, thoughtful guide created specifically for women facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption as an option.This valuable resource fills a critical need by offering clear, honest information about modern adoption practices while providing emotional support during what can be an overwhelming decision-making process. Now in its 5th edition, there are over 65,000 copies in print!
American Carriage House Publishing initially published this revolutionary piece of literature for women considering adoption in 2008. Since then, thousands of women have been able to learn of the option of open adoption through this book.
Many people wonder why women might choose adoption. This book goes through the various reasons, including that they’re not ready to be a mom, rape, no support from the baby’s father, and college plans.
A Non-Judgmental Approach to Modern Adoption
The book stands apart through its non-judgmental approach to helping women explore all facets of adoption in today’s world. Rather than pushing readers toward any particular choice, I wanted to present adoption as one of several valid options, empowering women to make fully informed decisions that align with their unique circumstances, values, and hopes for their child’s future.
Addressing Complex Emotions with Sensitivity
So I Was Thinking About Adoption addresses the complex emotions that accompany an unplanned pregnancy with sensitivity and understanding. I recognize that women in this position often face tremendous pressure and conflicting feelings.
Through my book, I sought to create a safe space for readers to process these emotions while gathering crucial information. In my book, I acknowledge that there are no easy answers, and offer clarity to help navigate this challenging time.
One of the book’s greatest strengths is its practical, straightforward explanation of modern adoption practices. Many women have outdated or inaccurate understandings of adoption based on stories from previous generations or media portrayals. In my book, I dispel myths and misconceptions by explaining the range of adoption arrangements possible today, from confidential to fully open adoptions with ongoing contact between birth and adoptive families.
Comprehensive Coverage of Today’s Adoption Options
The book also covers what open adoption is like today, answers to frequently asked questions, guidance on telling others about her adoption plans, tips for how she can choose the best adoption plan for her situation, and free adoption resources. This thorough approach ensures women have all the information they need to make an informed decision.
Practical Guidance for Difficult Conversations
The guide offers practical advice for difficult but essential aspects of the adoption process, such as how to discuss adoption plans with family members, friends, and the baby’s father.
So I Was Thinking About Adoption provides thoughtful guidance on selecting the right adoption professional, understanding the legal aspects of adoption, and most importantly, how to choose an adoptive family that aligns with the birth mother’s values and vision for her child’s future.
Honoring the Emotional Journey
So I Was Thinking About Adoption also acknowledges the emotional side of placing a child for adoption. It addresses the grief that often accompanies this choice as well as potential for healing and growth. The book includes perspectives from women who have placed children for adoption, offering readers insights from those who have walked this path before.
An especially valuable feature is the inclusion of free adoption resources that readers can access for more support. Through these resources, women can connect with professional counseling, support groups, and other services that can provide personalized guidance throughout their journey.
A Supportive Resource for Life-Changing Decisions
Whether a woman ultimately chooses parenting, adoption, or another option, So I Was Thinking About Adoption: Consider Your Choices serves as a compassionate companion during a profound life decision.
By providing honest information, emotional support, and practical guidance, I wanted to create this essential resource, honoring the dignity of women facing one of life’s most challenging crossroads while ensuring they have the tools to make the best decision for themselves and their baby.
An Excerpt From the Book
“I got pregnant when I was only 15… I was terrified to tell my mom, but then the day came when I couldn’t zip up my pants any more and she found out! Instead of going to school, she drove me to the doctor, with tears in our eyes. Turns out, I was already 5 months pregnant; guess that made sense, the baby was already kicking me all the time.”
“The thought of being a mother was a far-away idea. As my belly got bigger and my due date came closer, reality started to sink in. I didn’t have baby things or the money to buy them. I didn’t have a job, heck I hadn’t even finished high school. I think that is when I really started to consider my choices…so, I was thinking about adoption…”
-Megan
Reviews of the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption…
“So I Was Thinking About Adoption is a terrific book with real-life perspective on the ins and outs of unplanned pregnancy choices. Everything to make an informed decision is right at your finger tips.”
~ Elizabeth Miller, teacher
“Caldwell succeeds in creating another exceptional book assisting everyone through the adoption process. So I Was Thinking About Adoption turns the tables and sees the process through the biological parent’s eyes, answering all their questions and many they may not have thought about.”
~Carol Bolton, R.N.
“A must-read for anyone thinking about their pregnancy choices. This is a great book.”
~Natalie Fosberg, teen
“Finally a book that answers questions for women that are exploring their options…”
~Sonya Cohen, pregnant woman
“I wish I had this book 5 years ago when a friend was pregnant, easy to read and simple.”
~ Chris Givens, R.N.
Testimonials About the Book from Birth Mothers
“I wish I had something like this book when I was going through my pregnancy and adoption. I learned how wonderful it is to have guidance available during the adoption process…you’re not alone.”
“I like that it’s small so I can fit it in my purse.”
“It really walked me through the process of doing adoption.”
“It made me think about all that’s involved with parenting!”
You can download a copy at SoIWasThinkingAboutAdoption.com.
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on January 22, 2016, and has since been updated.